You can’t control your dreams, it doesn’t matter how hard you try, all you can do is try to sift through your unconsciousness and try to make sense of the jumbled thoughts that are forming your dreams. Here are some answers to the most common love-themed dreams.
Overall, dreams about love fall into two categories: satisfaction with the state of your life (your brain is basically saying, “oh I am so happy, it’s like the feeling of being in love”, or feeling a lack of affection on your life – so your mind is playing out different scenarios.)
I dreamt I fell in love with someone I don’t like!
Maybe you’re in love with them…no, not really. Take a step back and think about what this person represents, especially the things you don’t like about them.
If they are arrogant, perhaps you secretly admire their confidence and wish you had more of it.
Maybe it’s something as basic as you don’t like the way they look / smell / talk? It’s likely your brain is testing your limits.
It could also be that there’s a part of you that thinks it’s wrong to not like this person and is playing devil’s advocate – after all, surely no-one is that awful?
I dreamt that I fell in love with a stranger, could the dream come true?
This is the dream where you see a very clear face of someone you don’t know, but it’s a face that’s embedded in your memory. This individual might be someone that you see on your daily commute and haven’t “properly” noticed, as your brain logged their information without you noticing.
So, this dream could be about a stranger you will fall in love with, or it could just be your brain playing tricks on you…
I dreamt that I had broken up with my partner…
It’s a horrible feeling to wake up from a realistic dream with a nightmare-ish scenario, such a relationship breakdown, or the death of someone you know.
The first thing to tell yourself is; don’t panic. This isn’t a message from the darkest reaches of your brain that there’s some reason why you should break up, it is more likely that there are some other areas of your life that you are less than happy with, causing you stress.
Your brain will “displace” the fears you have about your job, another friendship, or whatever it is which is causing you some upset and transfer those feelings onto the most important relationship in your life.